My periods stopped when I was 54 years old, though I had to endure 2 years of scatty, unreliable periods, some of which were extremely heavy and lasted up to a week. After they stopped I was feeling great, there were no real issues, though I was putting on weight which had never been an issue for me before. Then the hot flushes came along, usually at the most inconvenient times. After 2 years I lost confidence, thought I didn't have many friends, stopped socialising and went into my shell. I get confused and I cry at anything. I can't make any decisions and I get stressed very easily. I feel as though I am losing my mind. It was suggested that I go on HRT. Is there an alternative? I don't want to take drugs.

Some women do find that their symptoms get worse well after the end of the menopause; this could be due to a variety of factors such as stress, low iron, low thyroid or low vitamin D.

These can all cause very similar symptoms to menopause ones so I would suggest that you ask your doctor to test for these if they haven't already done so just to rule them out.

In the meantime, if you are not on any other prescribed medication you could try Hypericum and I would also try a Flower Essence for confidence, you should be able to get a suitable one at your healthshop.

Acupuncture can often be helpful for this so it is worth looking into as well.

Eileen Durward

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